The Recalibration

#140 Performing for Perception: What I Had to Unlearn

Julie Holly Season 2 Episode 140

What happens when the image you’re protecting isn’t even you anymore? In this raw, personal episode, Julie shares her own recalibration — trading performance for presence and identity rooted in Christ.

You’ve spent years perfecting the image — polished, capable, always on point. But what if the very version of you that earned applause… no longer feels like you?

In this deeply personal episode, Julie shares her own recalibration story — from driven achiever to rooted daughter. It’s a raw look at what happens when performance no longer fits, and the deeper identity work that comes when you let the image fall away.

You’ll hear:

  • The midlife reckoning that revealed misalignment beneath success
  • Why “high performance” nearly cost Julie her health, marriage, and calling
  • The year-long “cocoon” that became sacred space for healing and recalibration
  • How Paul’s story in Philippians 3 mirrors the journey from achievement to intimacy
  • What it means to live loved — not to earn love

This is what we mean by Identity-Level Recalibration — it’s not about fixing the behavior. It’s about returning to the root.

If you’ve ever quietly wondered, “Who am I when no one’s watching?” — this episode is your invitation to find out.

Today’s Micro Recalibration:
Write down: Who am I when no one is watching?
Let that be enough today.

Other topics covered in today's episode:

  • Why performing for perception feels deceptively safe
  • The midlife question that shifted Julie’s entire approach to life and leadership
  • The hidden cost of trying to succeed by doing things “everyone else’s way”
  • Paul’s identity shift in Philippians 3 — and what it means for us
  • The truth about rest, worth, and the difference between being known vs. being admired
  • How Identity-Level Recalibration offers freedom from proving, producing, and perfection
  • A practical micro-step to anchor yourself in your truest identity today

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